I find it strange that anger is considered a negative emotion.
For clarity I'll mix and match some ideas. If you derive pleasure from hurting someone, could you say it makes you feel happy, or joyful? This is a positive emotion that creates a negative environment. We can waffle and say that it is an action derived from a personal hurt, etcetera. I don't buy that. Some people are just mean, and like it. I have a lot of anger. I don't beat my wife and kids. I do say scathing and horrible things to certain people. People who almost run over a child crossing the street, people who act superior to others for no other reason than an arbitrary title or amount of money. The list of those goes on. Anger, to me, get's things done. The sense of hesitation, fear, sometimes even consequence disappear, and I am left with the ability of accomplishment. There are reasons to avoid getting angry. It make you feel bad (I guess. I feel bad when I get angry and can no longer use someone to my benefit), it makes you do stupid things without noticing the risks and it can be self-destructive. As a result "normal" people do their best to suppress, redirect and mask their anger. Most of us treat our anger as though it's an infectious disease that without proper treatment will kill millions. But like all emotions anger has its purposes, which can be used to good effect. 1. It Can Drive You I rarely hear people say that anger is a positive energy. Sometimes I hear people talking about using anger as a motivating force by 'turning anger into positive energy', and even I have done this in explaining my own anger. In fact anger itself is a kind of positive energy and a powerful motivating force. Research has shown that anger can make us push on towards our goals in the face of problems and barriers. How often have you seen an apathetic person achieve their goals? When we see something as beneficial, we want it more when we're angry. So, when used right, constructive anger can make you feel strong and powerful and help push you on to get what you want. 2. Angry people are more optimistic It may sound like an odd thing to say, but angry people have something in common with happy people. That's because both tend to be more optimistic. Here's one such article*: "Effects of Fear and Anger on Perceived Risks of Terrorism A National Field Experiment Abstract The aftermath of September 11th highlights the need to understand how emotion affects citizens' responses to risk. It also provides an opportunity to test current theories of such effects. On the basis of appraisal-tendency theory, we predicted opposite effects for anger and fear on risk judgments and policy preferences. In a nationally representative sample of Americans (N = 973, ages 13-88), fear increased risk estimates and plans for precautionary measures; anger did the opposite. These patterns emerged with both experimentally induced emotions and naturally occurring ones. Males had less pessimistic risk estimates than did females, emotion differences explaining 60 to 80% of the gender difference. Emotions also predicted diverging public policy preferences. Discussion focuses on theoretical, methodological, and policy implications. " 3. Anger can benefit relationships Anger is a natural reaction to being wronged by someone else and it's a way of communicating that sense of injustice. But society tells us anger is dangerous and we should hide it. What does this do to our personal relationships? Research has shown that hiding anger in intimate relationships can be detrimental. The problem is that when you hide your anger, your partner doesn't know they've done something wrong. And so they keep doing it. And that doesn't do your relationship any good. The expression of anger, if justifiable and aimed at finding a solution rather than just venting, can actually benefit and strengthen relationships. 4. Anger provides self-insight Anger can also provide insight into ourselves, if we allow it. A sample of Americans and Russians were asked about how recent outbursts of anger had affected them. 55% claimed that getting angry had let to a positive outcome. One top of this one-third said that anger provided an insight into their own faults. If we can notice when we get angry and why, then we can learn what to do to improve our lives. Anger can motivate self-change. 5. Anger reduces violence Although anger often precedes physical violence, it can also be a way of reducing violence. That's because it's a very strong social signal that a situation needs to be resolved. When others see the signal they are more motivated to try and placate the angry party. If you're still not convinced that anger might reduce violence, imagine a world without anger where people had no method for showing how they felt about injustice. Will they jump straight to violence? 6. Anger as negotiation strategy Anger can be a legitimate way to get what you want. There's some evidence that anger can be used as a negotiation strategy, but it's more complicated than that. You can't just lose your rag and expect to win everything you want. Anger is likely to work best when it's justified, if you appear powerful and when the other side's options are limited. In the right circumstances, then, it's possible to both get mad and get even. Deadly sin or constructive emotion? I say anger can reduce violence, benefit relationships, promote optimism and be a useful motivating force, but it can just as easily be destructive. That's the wonder of human emotions: happy isn't always good and angry isn't always bad (although it may feel that way). An unhappy person is also more likely to spot mistakes and an angry person is highly motivated to act. We need reminding that even scary and dangerous emotions have their upsides, as long as they are used for the correct purpose. The likely features of constructive anger are: * that the person who caused the anger is present, * that it is justified and proportionate to the wrongdoing, * and it is expressed as the first step in trying to solve a problem rather than just venting bad feeling. People seem to unconsciously understand the benefits of anger. One study found participants who were about to play a game requiring them to be confrontational were more likely to listen to angry music beforehand or think back to things that have made them angry. They then went on to perform better in the task because they felt more angry. Used right, anger can be a handy tool. But use with caution as people find anger the most difficult of all the emotions to control. *1. Jennifer S. Lerner <http://pss.sagepub.com/search?author1=Jennifer+S.+Lerner&sortspec=date& submit=Submit> , 2. Roxana M. Gonzalez <http://pss.sagepub.com/search?author1=Roxana+M.+Gonzalez&sortspec=date& submit=Submit> , 3. Deborah A. Small <http://pss.sagepub.com/search?author1=Deborah+A.+Small&sortspec=date&su bmit=Submit> and 4. Baruch Fischhoff <http://pss.sagepub.com/search?author1=Baruch+Fischhoff&sortspec=date&su bmit=Submit> + <http://pss.sagepub.com/content/14/2/144> Author Affiliations 1. Carnegie Mellon University 2. Jennifer Lerner, Department of Social and Decision Sciences, Carnegie Mellon University, Pittsburgh, PA 15213; e-mail: [email protected].
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