Other Peoples Kids

DEAR JERKASS: I am a gay man who has had a difficult, distant relationship with my only brother, "Bill." He has made many nasty, homophobic remarks, and my partner, "Jon," has been excluded from many family gatherings. Because Jon wasn't welcomed I also did not attend those gatherings, and I endured further wrath because I didn't.

Bill's daughter has just announced that she is a lesbian. His reaction is mystifying. He has embraced her and her partner and has lovingly included them into the heart of the family.

I am happy that my niece has found love and support. I am also jealous that she has a better father than I did a brother. Are my feelings justified? -- SAD SIBLING IN VIRGINIA

DEAR BABY,
There is the off chance that your brother never liked you.  Just because you are related doesn't mean he has to accept you.  I mean, it's nice and all when family can get along, but having genetic similarities shouldn't demand fealty.  Being gay might just be a way for him to bug you.
There is the other possibility that your brother doesn't like your partner, and that's the reason you were excluded from family events.
In any case, you could use this opportunity to try to connect with your brother instead of sitting in the corner crying about the favorite child.  You know, like children do.

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