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DEAR JERKASS: I just found out that my husband of 30 years is having an affair. When I confronted him, he said: "I have a girlfriend. I can't imagine the rest of my life without girlfriends, so get over it!" Then he told me he has never been faithful, but that he loves me and would be devastated if I left. He considers his fooling around to be "safe and harmless escapades."

Abby, my heart is broken. He has flaunted this woman in my face, and embarrassed and humiliated me in public. Now he's angry with me because I told her husband what is going on.

How do I find the strength and courage to leave? I have some health issues and haven't worked in years. What do I tell our kids? My world is crashing down around my ears. -- HEARTBROKEN IN THE SOUTH

DEAR PUSHOVER,
How do you have the lack of will to stay?  He's an asshole, and you are a fucking idiot.
What self respecting person allows someone to lie to them like this?  He doesn't love you, he just wants to control you.  And like the dumb cur you are you are letting him.
Find family to stay with and lawyer up.  You may not have money now, but after you put him through the ringer he'll probably have to pay your legal fees as well.
Meanwhile, stay with family if you can and try to get an online degree that helps you work from home.
Need courage?  Think about what a horrible example he is for your kids.  That should bring a spark of the momma bear out.  If it doesn't, then just lay down and shut your mouth.  That's what he wants you to do.

(divorce)