DEAR JERKASS: I was recently told by a neighbor that if he wasn't married, he would make a pass at me. It made me feel kind of bad, especially the next day when I saw his wife.
My niece said I shouldn't feel bad because it was a compliment and I should be glad I still attract attention at 60. My feeling is, if you think about it -- it's infidelity.
Am I wrong or too stringent in my thinking? -- OLD-FASHIONED LADY IN OREGON
If it's something he won't say in front of his wife, then it isn't something he should be saying.
Men, compliments should be directed to your significant other, or to fine pieces of woodwork. Possibly your children. If you are complimenting another woman, that means you are looking at the other woman. And if you are looking at another woman, you might be having thoughts about that other woman. And that's where you need to close your mouth, pucker it up, and give your sweety a kiss.
Because fucking around doesn't make you a man. Fine, males look. Men don't cheat. Real men save their best words for their partners. Real men don't just keep their words, they keep their words for their significant others.