This time around I'm going to post part of Dear Abby's response to a letter. Lately I haven't even read her response, but this time I feel she's enabling entitled people.
Here's where you can read her full responses.
And here's a bunch of people who think the world revolves around them:
DEAR CRABBY: For the last few years my family has rented the same beach condo. My friend "John" and his family have joined us there on many occasions. When I asked him his vacation plans for this year, he informed me last night that he has rented the beach condo for the same weeks we have historically occupied it.
I was floored. I think a more appropriate approach would have been for him to have called me first and expressed his interest in renting it, but he should not have rented the unit if it conflicted with our vacation plans. I understand the free marketplace -- first-come, first-served -- but I can't help feeling he undercut me. -- CONFUSED IN TENT AT THE BEACH
Did you ever think that maybe they wanted to rent that beach condo, and every year YOU rented it first? This isn't the first consecutive year you have tried to rent it. Maybe the reason they joined you was to try to get close to that spot they've wanted for years, you selfish bastard. Other people get vacation times as well, and instead of whining about how "he got it first" (with your apparent understanding of free market yadda yadda), you could be an adult, wish them a good holiday, and hey!: Maybe YOU could join THEM.
The fact is, if you can't share the toy, maybe you don't deserve it. Get your head out of your ass and look at this as an opportunity: now instead of going to the same place and doing the same thing you always do, you could try something different, like growing as a person instead of being a spoiled child.
(Dear Abby wrote: " Your feeling is 100 percent accurate. That weasel DID undercut you, and real friends don't act that way. Now that you know what he's capable of, contact the landlord and make a long-term deal in advance if you want that unit in the future."
Dear Abby? You are part right; real friends do not act that way. Confused is the "weasel" for thinking that friendship means he gets his way all the time. His friend doesn't have to ask permission to rent something that's available to everyone, and all you are doing is introducing tit-for-tat mentality and encouraging vindictiveness instead of communication.)
DEAR CRABBY: I am a lonely 83-year-old woman. All I want is someone to love me, preferably a handsome, wealthy man who will spoil me. I have spent my entire life making other people happy, and now all I want is some happiness back. I mean, can't an older woman get some loving, too?
I have been told I'm charming. I have the laugh of an angel, a full head of blond/gray hair and a slim figure. I would like a man (preferably in his elderly years) who is lonely and needs some company. And also someone who wants to spend his savings on me. Abby, help me find my soul mate. -- WAITING FOR "GOT-DOUGH"
If this letter is real, then you are still fake. Clearly there is a reason why you are alone. If you actually were loving and giving, someone would have seen that by now. You've been told you are charming and have the laugh of an angel? Is this what you think "making other people happy" means? Being charming simply means you were polite enough to help people forget you were getting your own way.
I'm thinking that anyone who has a decent life savings did it by investing in things that will get them a healthy return. You seem like a money pit.
You want someone who is elderly and wants your company? I suggest the Devil. He's been around a while, and you'll be meeting him soon enough. I'm sure he'll lavish all his attention on a money grubbing old witch like you.
I wonder why we should "respect our elders", when stupid people get old too.
DEAR ABBY: My daughter-in-law is having a baby. My mother and I told her we would have a shower for her. She registered at a local store for baby gifts, let us start planning the shower, and then informed us that she would not be opening gifts at the party. My son has sided with her. He said he didn't know her reason, but felt like it was no big deal.
Why would she act that way? We think it's peculiar. The shower has now been canceled at her request. -- MYSTIFIED IN CALIFORNIA
Is this shower for you to show off, or for your daughter-in-law? Why is it a big deal that she open gifts in front of people? This seems suspicious to me, and a little like you also need to cut the apron strings a little. You wrote that your son sided with her (meaning you approached him to get her to change her mind), but didn't even commend him for sticking with his wife through thick and thin. Do you not realize how great that is?! He doesn't even need to know her reasons, he just supports her. But you were too busy getting bitchy because he sided with her and not you.
Sounds to me like the reason you are mystified is because you have a situation that isn't going your way.
Throwing a party is like entering someones home: You have to be cognizant of what they do and do not like, and not be insulted when you make them uncomfortable.
Really, you are just being falsely generous and dismissive about her feelings.
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Judas' Advice Column
This is where I take a Dear Abby column, and add my own brand of advice. I started by calling it Dear Crabby, but that's taken and JERKASS seems more fun.