DEAR JERKASS: My husband of three years has visits with his son every Tuesday and Thursday evening. My mother-in-law picks up her grandson, takes him to her home and makes dinner for the three of them. I work 10-hour days Monday through Friday and am not able to attend these dinners.
My question is, isn't it proper etiquette that my mother-in-law should send a plate of food home for me with my husband? She never has, and I think this is rude and inconsiderate of her. What is your opinion? -- HUNGRY IN EL PASO
DEAR GET TAKE OUT: Get take out.
See, your husband of three years has an established routine with his son and mother that probably existed before you showed up, and will keep going after you're gone. Did it ever occur to you that he's doing this to continue a relationship for his son and his mother? That maybe it wasn't about you?
And what about the fact that you aren't mad at your husband for bringing you home something? Sounds like you just have an axe to grind with your MIL, and you're picking on the most obvious thing to get at her.
I'm not going to say your husband is a "mama's boy", but I do want to say that I think you are trying to drive a wedge between them all because you feel you aren't getting enough attention. You might get more if you renegotiate your current job so that you aren't working 50+ hours a week and can go to the occasional dinner.
And another thing: why aren't you bitching that you don't have a family dinner at your mother's house? Just another question that makes me think you're just trying to cause trouble.
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