DEAR JERKASS: I have been with my husband for 12 years, married for three. I had an affair a little over a year ago that he found out about. He has let me back into the house, but he demeans my character at every opportunity. I don't fight back because I know I am the cause of his pain.
We have a 3-year-old daughter, and I am now six weeks pregnant with his child. I do not want to argue with him, because if I had been a better wife, he would not be so angry. But the hurt I feel from his words over the past months is weighing heavy on me, especially with my new hormones. I'm holding it in, but should I leave? Become a single mother? How can I get him to a counselor? -- NEEDS COUNSELING
DEAR GETTING A DIVORCE: You have a three year old...the same length of time you've been married. After you got married and had the kid, then you cheated. If he hadn't found out, would you have told him? My guess is "NO".
You do not become a single mother, now.
You become a divorced mother with weekend visits.
The Dad gets primary custody.
Don't bother with the counselor, he's better off without you.
Judas' Advice Column
This is where I take a Dear Abby column, and add my own brand of advice. I started by calling it Dear Crabby, but that's taken and JERKASS seems more fun.