Normally I try to inject humor into these letters. Mostly because what people are bitching about is "First world problems".
Pedophilia has no humor to me. If you have been molested, please find out where in your community you can register petitions to have these monsters get their genitals mutilated.
Here's Abby's letter.
DEAR Jerkass: After years of carrying this guilt, I want to tell my story. It may help others.
When my grandfather tried to rape me, it was at night when everyone was asleep. I stopped him as much as a 10-year-old could. The next day he wrote me a letter saying he was sorry for what he did. It read, "If your dad finds out, it will KILL HIM." Strong words for a 10-year-old, so I buried the letter in the back yard. He never touched me again.
Five years after that, Grandpa was arrested for molesting my younger brothers. As a young girl, I didn't know men molested boys. I found out after my grandfather went to prison that he had also molested my dad and his sister when they were children.
Please warn parents to educate their children. Tell them that even someone they love does not have the right to touch them in a way that makes them uncomfortable.
My dad felt guilty for the rest of his life for what happened to us because he had let this monster back into his life. If this saves one person from the shame and guilt I have carried, it will have been worth it. -- WISH I HAD TOLD IN FLORIDA
I sympathize with what happened to you. My own abuser is dead, so that burden is lifted.
With the proliferation of webcams, monitors, nannycams, etc, the ability to catch these monsters should be greater. Also, teaching kids to be "rats" or "snitches" should be de-stigmatized. I would rather deal with a tattle-tale that tells me they are legit being abused and have to go through the dross of what billy down the street is doing, than have a monster get away. In that, the NSA and I agree.
I do want to address being a victim, however.
Don't be. Don't let the "I can't do this because of what happened to me as a child" rule your life. I hate having my picture taken because of what happened to me. But I will always let my wife take photo's of me and the kids, or us together. That is what every victim needs to know: that you are not a victim. Bad things happened. Bad things happen every day, and we can either use those events to help propel us into a better life, learning as we go, or we can wallow in freakish misery, allowing those abusers to continue to abuse us even after they are locked away.
Also, I want to bring into this a very important fact: The recidivism rate for a pedophile is 100%. There is no therapy for them. And even if I'm wrong in that statistic, they should never be allowed near a child again and should have their dicks cut off.
Chemical castration should be the first sentence. People everywhere should start petitions. Here's one: Petition
Judas' Advice Column
This is where I take a Dear Abby column, and add my own brand of advice. I started by calling it Dear Crabby, but that's taken and JERKASS seems more fun.