We all tend to avoid emotional pain. This is not good. It dramatically limits our potential. If we want to have a shot at actualizing our potential, we need to “eat our pain” and, rather than curl up in a little ball and try to avoid it, we should discipline ourselves to digest and gain nutrition from the challenges and pain in our lives.
Think of all your failures as being nutritional building blocks. On their own, they may not seem to do much or even taste bitter. Calcium is good for your bones, but broccoli isn’t everyone’s favorite vegetable. And vitamin D is good for boosting your mood, but foods such as liver gross many people out. Yet when you interlock them the vitamin D increases your calcium absorption, and calcium can also stabilize your mood.
We know that calcium and vitamin D are essential for our health, but we often avoid them because foods rich in vitamins and minerals tend to be not very flavorful or “painful” to eat. Yet growth itself is a painful process, and if we avoid learning from our failures because of pain and pallet then we become unhealthy even when our bellies are full.
Use what you learned from your failure to build on top of. Interlock those lessons. Your failure allowed you to see what worked and what didn’t, what shapes fit together, and what you want to build towards. Avoiding something because it is painful both emotionally and spiritually, prevents you from growing in the way you need to.
Most of us are aware that pain is an inevitable part of life. We also know deep down that using pain to grow is a far better option than simply avoiding it altogether. Unfortunately, we often fall into the trap of trying to find short-term solutions for long-term problems, which in the end can do more harm than good. When we use pain to grow, we’re taking a step in the right direction by pushing ourselves beyond our comfort zone. We become more resilient, have more courage and expand our capacity for success. Rather than cowering away from our struggles, we face them head on and come out stronger on the other side. It’s important to understand that using pain to grow doesn’t mean you have to enjoy it or even like it. It means having the courage and fortitude to use it as fuel for future accomplishments. You need to remain positive and focus on what lies ahead rather than getting discouraged by what’s happening now. Here are some ideas for how you can use pain to your advantage:
• Embrace failure – Embracing failure is one of the most difficult things for many people but it’s also one of the best ways to learn and grow from experiences. When you make mistakes, don’t get discouraged; instead take those lessons with you and channel your energy into finding solutions or making improvements
• Have a tonality – Having a positive tonality in everything that you do will help instill confidence and resilience in yourself when faced with difficult circumstances or roadblocks in life. A positive attitude will help you work through any challenge with ease as well as helping you stay motivated when times get tough
• Celebrate small wins – Celebrating small wins along your journey will give you motivation and keep you inspired while on your path towards growth and success. Every accomplishment should be celebrated no matter how small; recognizing these successes will give you fuel for future progress The key takeaway here is that pain is an unavoidable part of life and if we want to reach our full potential, then we must learn how to use it as a tool for growth instead of running away from it or trying to suppress it. With this mindset, you’ll soon find yourself developing greater strength, resilience and a higher tolerance for adversity—all essential traits needed on the road towards success!