DEAR JERKASS: My 19-year-old daughter was married last year. We gave her a formal church wedding. Of the 100 guests invited, several were longtime co-workers, who took the time to purchase lovely gifts and travel two hours to the wedding. Some also gave cash gifts.
My daughter still hasn't sent out thank-you cards. I see my co-workers week after week, and I'm humiliated. I have mentioned it to my daughter several times, but she says it's too late to send them now. Abby, we raised her better than this. Every time I say anything about it, she gives me an argument.
Please help. This eats away at me every day. Should I take the reins and send a short letter of apology to these dear co-workers? -- TORN UP IN TEXAS
You paid for the wedding, I'm assuming, so you can say thank you if you want to. Your daughter doesn't have to.
True, times get busy after a wedding, so it's fine to let some time lapse. But if she never invited them in the first place (or you invited on her behalf) she doesn't have to thank squat.
I think you should worry more about your over inflated pride. You could thank them for going to your daughters wedding, but don't thank them on her behalf (and only if you paid for it).
Get over it. If you can't, then you should go get a couple of two-by-fours and nail yourself to them.