DEAR JERKASS: My fiancee and I work full time. We are trying to save for our wedding and a deposit for a house. The trouble is, after paying rent, bills and day-to-day expenses, we are left with next to nothing.
I played poker when I was in college, which generated a nice income during my late teens and early 20s. A few months back, I decided to pick it up again and found a group of people who like to play. Since then, I have been playing four hours two or three nights a week, and it has generated an extra monthly income of $1,000 to $1,500. Our finances have improved a lot.
There are nights my fiancee wants me to stay home. She says if I had a part-time job, she would understand why I couldn't stay home on the days she asked. But to me, poker IS a part-time job, and it pays more than anything else I could find in this area. I play the same set schedule every week, so she should know what nights I need to go in to "work." What do you say? -- ALL-IN IN VIRGINIA
Sure, gamble a couple of times a week. Justify it by saying you're making money. What about when you start losing? How are you going to explain it then...
Maybe you could compromise: sit down and talk over finances, really look at what you are saving your money for (you don't need a $50,000 wedding), what your actual expenses are month-to-month, and set a timeline for your "other job". Tell her that if you are still playing poker in five months then she can leave you for being stupid and keep the money you've saved.
Sounds like a good gamble, doesn't it? Know why? Because if you fuck her over she'll be able to dump your sorry ass and start off fresh instead being dragged down by your lies.
Here is a link for you. In it is a hundred different ways to save money. Maybe if you are smart, you'll show this list to your fiance and you can find ways to save money TOGETHER. You know, like in a relationship.