DEAR CRABBY: My boyfriend and I are in our 40s and have been living together for several years. The house we live in is in his name only, and he pays the mortgage.
I own a townhouse I bought before I met him, and I make the payments on it. People often ask us why I don't sell it. I usually give some excuse, but the real reason is, when he drafted his will, he left everything to his mother -- at her insistence.
He seems to think it's too much trouble and expensive to change his will to include me. I want to be sure I have a place to live, so I have kept my townhouse.
Needless to say, our views on this situation differ. What's your opinion? -- HEDGING MY BETS IN TEXAS
You are forty. You apparently have lived this long without killing yourself in some Darwinian way, so kudos for being a reasonably intelligent mammal. You're still being an emotional idiot.
Dump that momma's boy right now. Just the thought that a parent would get financial recompense for their full grown child dying is disgusting. Parents die and leave their kids an inheritance, not the other way around. The fact that his mother coerced him to do it makes me want to wish horrible things upon this man.
This man will suck the remaining life out of you and will leave you with nothing. Literally.
Pack up and leave. You at least know you have a place to stay. Then, go to a book store, hang around a topic you like, and if a good looking guy offer to buy the book he looks at. Presto. You're already more confident and you have something in common.